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Hello,
It is not very apparent in MXM currently how merging customer database works, and also the buttons have some scary language
Change Database and Delete Database - when really it seems that it just a merge database.
Also need to be able to tell if it matter what account your in first (from location selector) or if it is truly just merging two databases and it does not matter.